My 9yo DD came back from a weekend at her dad's this evening upset.
He has had a GF now for about six months and spends nearly all of his time with her and her DD (not that it's any of my business). A couple of months into their relationship, he decided to cut down the amount of time he spent with DD, saying it was no longer "practical" He now only sees her EOW, whereas he used to have her every Sunday, alternate weekends and one evening in the week. DD was really upset at first, saying it was because "daddy only wants to spend time with his GF". She's better these days, though sadly. has lost some of her enthusiasm to see him.
She got a bit upset in the week, saying she really wished that sometimes she could have a bit of alone time with daddy, as the GF and her DD are always present when she goes to him for a weekend. I said she should talk to him calmly about it, which she did, and he agreed that they would spend today (Sunday) together, just the two of them and go to the park. DD was delighted and looking forward to it.
But this morning DD said to ExH "Are you taking GF and her DD home this morning (they stayed at his last night) before you and I go out?" ExH's reply was that plans had changed and that wasn't happening now. DD said the four of them didn't actually do anything in particular today (apart from go out for dinner this evening) so she couldn't understand why she and him couldn't have just had an hour or so alone. Hence the upset, as she's convinced herself that daddy doesn't really care about her any more
I don't know what to do. I've tried telling her that daddy is allowed to have a GF and it doesn't mean he loves her any less, but she's so hurt. I can't speak to him about it as I get told it's none of my business (even though DD's happiness IS my business and should be his too).
I'm trying to stay neutral on this but I can't have my DD come home in tears because she feels pushed aside. If this continues, I'm worried she's going to get to a point where she won't want to see him at all.
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Prforone · 24/02/2014 00:52
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