Monotony - who else is tired of it?

[Alambil]

another evening alone
another evening in front of the telly / internet / crochet / books
another evening.... zzzz

another weekend....

I see my family every day (they have DS whilst I'm at work) and every weekend, so it's not like I'm "alone" as such, but I'm just so lonely and I'm the ONLY single parent in the entire family (immediate and wider)

ugh.

monotony.

I hate it.

[FloweryFeatureWall]

And the award for the least sensitive post in the lone parents forum goes to...

[Rummikub]

I feel your pain. I dread weekends spent alone. I like my own company but sometimes it's too much!

[Alambil]

ach, I'm used to such sentiment, Flowery!

needaholiday - yes, being alone to have a peaceful night's sleep would be lovely for you, but I promise you that after 11 years raising your children, if you have any, alone - every single day - without someone to say "you know what, I'm at the end - I'm going for a bath... you do dinner" would get to you!!

so, it's nearly 3am - suppose I should try to sleep!

[sharonosaurus]

Im totally alone OP, no family for 200 miles, Its been nearly a year now,

Its a sad fact of life when you feel a bit better, because you have gone to the petrol station on Boxing day, just to get out of the house & get to talk to the person behind the counter for 30 seconds.

I never want to feel like that again. Loneliness is not nice.

We are getting there slowly & I wouldn't even want my DP back after all he did.

I hope you feel better soon, and 11 years of doing a two person job should make you feel proud, I bet you are, but its hard for us to realise what a great job, we really do

[clearsommespace]

What about friends? I like going over to my friends houses for hot choc and chat while DH stays home: either lone parents or ones with DHs who work away. Is there anyone you could invite? (Not everyone would dare suggest they pop over to yours after 9pm or whatever time DCs are in their rooms.)

When I was a teenager, Mum's friend who was a single parent used to join us on outings and walks etc with her DC. It started off that we would take the DC so the mother could study and then when she qualified she joined in.

Some RL friends may not be aware of what they could do to help.

[GreenRedBlueYellowPurple]

Sharon there was a period in the Christmas holidays when I didn't see a friend or family member for 5/6 days in a row!!!

[Meglet]

It's SO boring. I'm too tired to see friends. I just want someone else to make dinner and put the dc's to bed for once . (Nb; XP never did it and my family do it once a year when we all go on holiday).

My new OU course starts this month and I'm so fed up I'm not at all inspired to start work.

[GreenRedBlueYellowPurple]

Yes Meglet finding the energy to study is REALLY HARD!

[Monetbyhimself]

But if you were single Needaholiday, then you'd be one of those psycho, sponging EX wives that you hate so much. For somebody who isn't a lone parent, you spend an awful lot of time trawling this board looking for threads to stick the boot in (in a totes tongue in cheek way of course) Perhaps some counselling would help you with your obsession with Ex wives ? Few insecurity/low self esteem issues going on? Playing second fiddle to your partners Ex and kids seems to REALLY affect you Your bitterness seeps through your posts. It can't be healthy.

OP I think this time of year is the absolute worst. Dark evenings, crappy weather, shite telly. Can't wait for GBBO to start again

[Meglet]

I've got feb half term off work and we've got loads of stuff lined up. I feel like I'm just hanging on until then.

greenred I'm doing an NVQ at work and OU at home. I've given up on housework.

[FloweryFeatureWall]

Tongue in cheek my arse. Even if it was a joke, what a stupid thread to try and joke on. Don't you think we hear that kind of shit all the time? Why do you even post in this section? Seriously?

[OwlCapone]

Most people, on having it pointed out that their comment was insensitive, would have apologised profusely and explained that's not quite how they meant it. Although I'm really failing to see how it's an appropriate "joke" to make in a thread where someone has said they're struggling.

[susiedaisy]

Op I could of written your post. Been 3 years on my own now and feel so lonely at times . I become invisible at the weekends to the rest if the world it seems!

Ineedaholidaynow. Your post didn't come across as tongue in cheek it seemed to come across as smug sarcasm.

[FloweryFeatureWall]

There's looking at a board and then there's posting stupid comments, claiming they are a joke and then continuing to blather on defending the "joke" and not just switching the brain on and realising it wasn't appropriate and apologising. Do you make stupid "jokes" on threads in other sections when people are obviously feeling a bit down?

[susiedaisy]

Feeling trapped? How on earth are other posters to know that you are trapped from that one off flippant comment you made!

[TheOriginalNutcracker]

I fear i might actually die of boredom one day lol.

I've been single for 8yrs now and yeh it does get easier in so many respects, but the being alone night after night is so miserable.
I have learnt to like my own company but i'd give anything for someone to share it with.