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1st date on sat, nervous,wish me luck!

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rainbowfeet Thu 30-Jan-14 21:41:27

Got a 1st date on sat night.. Met online been texting for about 3 weeks.
Haven't had a date for about 3 years very nervous... Top tips people please. smile

Aloneandnowwhat Thu 30-Jan-14 21:42:42

No advice sorry but good luck and I hope you have fun.

eyebrowsfurrowed Thu 30-Jan-14 21:44:19

go. relax. he doesn't have to be 'the one.' don't feel the need to please him. it's all in your hands. enjoy yourself!!!

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple Thu 30-Jan-14 21:44:44

Ok first of all... It's possibly not a real date. If you've only been talking online and haven't met yet, you may not even like him. He may be nothing like you imagined. I have met 15 people from the Internet to date and my heart has sunk a little bit each time. Turns out I have an optimistic imagination. I hope he's great but... it may not be the hot date you're expecting. :-)

Monetbyhimself Thu 30-Jan-14 22:13:08

Enjoy! What have you got planned ?

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Fri 31-Jan-14 13:06:20

He might be nervous too! Good luck, treat it as a nice night out, not necessarily the start of something major, you're putting your toe in the water again.

rainbowfeet Fri 31-Jan-14 13:54:14

Thank you, just off to a local pub.

I really hate the first few months of a relationship the awkwardness & get to know each other.. That's why I've been single so long.. I wish you could jump straight to the both committed & secure enough to say you are a couple no game playing!! Not exactly an old romantic am I?!! Lol hmm wink

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple Sat 01-Feb-14 10:09:14

Enjoy. I hope he's attractive. Tell us what happens!!! :-D

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple Sat 01-Feb-14 10:10:15

Ps game playing is not romantic. If he's one of those, kick him to the curb, sista! ;-)

Monetbyhimself Sat 01-Feb-14 10:13:51

What are we wearing ???

rainbowfeet Sat 01-Feb-14 10:18:42

Was going to go with skinny jeans a cream silky top & black blazer, chunky necklace or a scarf & black studded ankle boots with a heel??!!

Monetbyhimself Sat 01-Feb-14 10:24:19

Perfect!

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple Sat 01-Feb-14 10:59:09

Go with the scarf rather than the chunky necklace! :-)

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple Sat 01-Feb-14 11:03:10

It sounds gorgeous! (I just hate chunky necklaces and think scarves are waaaay more sassy & chic)

rainbowfeet Sat 01-Feb-14 11:47:28

Ok with scarf... Tied in a knot so it hangs quite long (making me look taller & slimmer) or wrapped around neck?????

Monetbyhimself Sat 01-Feb-14 11:53:41

Wrapped around the neck. Classy!

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple Sat 01-Feb-14 15:08:38

Yes draped around neck and if it's nice and flattering, over shoulders. My friend wears hers (green & red) over jacket like this and it's lovely.

Can't wait to hear all! I could have an Internet date (we all could!) but am just not in the right place for it a.t.m so I'm happy to live vicariously through your excitement :-)

Smile, do and say only whatever you are comfortable with. If you don't feel like staying, make your excuse (have one ready like oh I just got a text from my babysitter) and leave promptly.

They are not all who they say they are :-)

Have fun!

Monetbyhimself Sun 02-Feb-14 08:35:13

Hope it went well ! We need details grin

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple Sun 02-Feb-14 12:40:42

Tell us!

rainbowfeet Sun 02-Feb-14 13:38:06

He was 'nice', easy to talk to & seemed genuine but there was no spark on my side!hmm

& bloody typically is quite keen on arranging a 2nd date!! Story of my life the ones I really like never like me back !! confused

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple Sun 02-Feb-14 15:18:05

Haha rainbow feet I met about 15 guys from the internet and this was the exact case in about 13 of them lol! :-) Was it an ok night?

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple Sun 02-Feb-14 15:19:18

Well in about 10 of the cases. 3 were total weirdos and 2 or 3 I thought were ok. Just ok though! Sigh. Am giving it another go now myself...

rainbowfeet Sun 02-Feb-14 16:21:23

It was pleasant enough but on past experience I know without that spark it will not work!!

I'm not being unrealistic, I'm knocking 40 I don't expect a Brad Pitt lookalike & there to be fireworks but you have to have a little spark, don't you?

To at least have that butterflies feeling & hope they kiss you or feel the same... That wasn't present at all hmm

piratecat Sun 02-Feb-14 16:23:36

well done thought for getting out there and going.

you'll have to let him down i guess.

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple Sun 02-Feb-14 17:32:20

I actually have to disagree vehemently. I hate the 'spark.' Some guys make it their mission to kindle a 'spark' but it's meaningless. Give him a couple more dates. It sometimes works!

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