Have 2 dcs, my son is primary school age, has asd, and mostly ok with going to his dads. If he doesn't want to go it's normally because he thinks he is going to miss out on something like computer time.
DD is starting to complain every time. She is 6. They go alternate weekends, and he takes them out after school once a fortnight. The last one of these after school visits, dd got so upset. She was screaming, kicking out whilst her dad tried to strap on her seatbelt, so I said I thought it best if she didn't go.
Me and dd had a bit of time together, which I thought maybe that was all she needed. I said she would be going to dads on Friday. She didn't have to do the after schools if she was too tired, but when it was her weekend at dads she needed to go.
I can't talk to ex about this, as understandably he wants see his dc, so thinks she should be made to go. If she really doesn't want to go that much it doesn't feel right to force her. There have been a few issues with an older brother recently but as far as I'm aware it's been sorted.
I had always thought the point would come where they didn't want to go back and forth, but I thought they would be at least in secondary school before that happened.
At what point/age do you stop making them go to their dads if they don't want to? And what alternative arrangements do you set up to keep their relationship going?
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biscuitfreak · 08/12/2013 07:34
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