Hi, I'm gonna post before work so wont be able to check back for a bit but hoping for a few tips. Basically, since splitting in March me and my ex have been through the expected ups and downs - a few fallings out etc, but generally we are at a good place atm, fairly amicable, DD lives with me 3 or 4 days a week and things are as good as could be expected without being bosom buddies.
The only problem is, obviously my family like a good moan about her occasionally, so do I now and again when I need to get something off of my chest - I'm sure this is exactly the same on her side, it just happens after a split.
However, recently I moved in with a family member for a few months whilst I sort out my finances and look for a new place for myself and DD to live. Nobody says a word against my ex whilst DD is around, as it should be, but this person I live with has taken to wanting to complain about exW on a nightly basis. I don't mind people having there opinions bit I just find it unconstructive when I'm trying to just move on with my life and not dwell on the past. Things came to a head a bit last night when I was asked if I'd ever 'get back with her' which is really a question I don't want asking, and today when I've got back from work I've been greeted by the sentence 'I think I've annoyed your ex wife' over a little disagreement on facebook.
Now I don't know if I'm being oversensitive, but I don't want to waste energy just constantly being made to think about my ex when DD isn't here, and I also don't want any family members making it awkward between us by having arguments with her and then telling me like they've earned brownie points. It's hard enough maintaining a positive relationship without other people causing little dramas along the way. At the sane time, I don't want to be accused of taking sides against an otherwise incredibly supportive family member who took me in when in trouble.
So, do I just keep smiling and nodding, so to speak, or is there a sensitive way to say that I really don't care anymore what exW is up to and could we please drop the subject? Thanks in advance for any tips.
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BloodshotDays · 21/11/2013 16:43
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