So I am 25 weeks pregnant and thinking ahead here on how to arrange contact with babies Dad.
Anyone who read my previous post will know he was assessed by social services as a risk. My social worker is looking into everything but it seems he has a contact order for his other daughter, unsupervised so courts didn't assess him as a risk. She seems reluctant to advise me on contact arrangements, is this something she should be helping me with?
Ex has been in touch and says will contact me nearer time to arrange seeing the baby.
I have a 2 yr old from previous relationship who doesn't attend nursery as he has special needs. Hopin he may do 1 morning starting in Jan. Babies dad doesn't work so am trying to think how I arrange contact and what to offer that's reasonable.
I know the easiest thing would be to offer him to visit my home and see baby there but he so unpredictable and I don't have anyone who could supervise and will have my 2 yr old with me. The last thing I need is him not leaving when asked or threatening to take baby or just generally making me feel not safe in my own home. If I arrange to meet him out somewhere I dunno how I gonna be after the birth. But thinking maybe this safest option. I will have to meet him alone as noone to come with me but least in public I will feel safer I think. Is that unreasonable? How many times a week and for how long? I plan to breastfeed so want to get that established too. I know I'm thinking ahead but feel I need to get it straight in my head to stop me worrying. Is it worth calling for some legal advice?
Social services have closed my case now we have split up but am worried anything kicking off afterwards will result with them involved again. And I don't want to be seen as putting my kids at risk in any way. But I also know he is gonna pursue contact and court will prob grant it but dunno how is best.
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Eternity84 · 10/11/2013 14:03
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