I separated from H a few months ago, but only moved out a few weeks ago. We have 4 dcs, aged 3 to 10.
Before the separation, he left all the childcare to me, to the extent that he usually wouldn't even eat with us. He only reliably showed an interest in his dcs if they asked him (eg for an occasionaly bedtime story) or if friends or family were around, in which case he morphed into Disney Dad.
Now it seems that Disney Dad is here to stay. He wants enough contact to keep my maintenance payments low , which is already more than I'm comfortable with - partly maybe that's just me adjusting, having done everything in the past, but partly I'm concerned because he will have no real routine for the dcs because he dislikes routine, and he tends to blame them if things go wrong rather than accept any responsibility. He also has a demanding job (flexible timing so he often stays up very late working) and never used to get up in the mornings with the dcs.
He is used to getting what he wants and ignoring what I want - and I am used to accepting that with minimal fight more recently, tbh. But I don't want the dcs to have so much time with him if that is not in their best interests.
Do I have any right to fight 50-50 contact?
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CharlotteCollinsinherownplace · 28/10/2013 18:27
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