Ex decided not to pay CSA this month.It takes ages to go from his account to mine so he had plenty of time to warn me that it would nt be coming.Im really really cross.Iv just had to buy new school shoes trainers uniform etc to get them back to school.Pay for school trips dinner money everything as usual so I'm really skint.Also due to the new girlfriends behaviour towards the children they hav nt spent much time with him so I hav nt been able to work any overtime which usually gets me out of a tough spot.Also means that I have to buy extra food entertainment etc.Why could he just not have the decency to warn me I would have been a bit more careful in my spending so would nt be in this crappy situation.Why is it that non resident parents think its fine just not to bother,I can't just say sorry kids I've got more important things to spend my money on I'm not supporting you this month. Rant over.
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How can he decide not to pay it, is there any recourse to get it repaid? What a shitty system.
My ex has withheld some of his maintenance before because he just didn't have it spare (& obviously I'm rolling around in spare cash here 
). I managed to recoup it by offering to go halves on a big present for one of the DCs which he paid for, and then when he asked me for my half I said "you can take it out of what you owe me" - felt so fucking good!
I tried to explain to him that withholding money was like me going up and taking his wallet, extracting £200 and saying "I took some money off you because I'm a bit short". I think it sunk in as he hasn't done it since.
I know how you feel, this month has been hard here too, residential trip to pay for, uniforms/sports kits/shoes etc. and one of mine is upper school, so even more expensive and he won't accept Tesco trainers!
I even had to cancel DS's music lessons as I couldn't afford them this term 
I think they see how much happier we are without them and so they don't feel obliged to keep supporting us. My XH knows that my new DP is pretty well off so he thinks he should be supporting us - what he doesn't get is that they earn the same amount and DP has his own ex to support! Tosser.
Hope you can get it backdated. Can you contact him and say "for some reason it hasn't been paid this month - can he contact them to find out what the problem is and when you're going to get the money, as it is needed for the DCs' uniforms etc"
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