I'm having a real problem with my DD (14). She was very excited to start babysitting for her brothers (8,11) and was very happy to do it for a while because it made her feel grown up. I naively said I'd always ask her and wouldn't go out if she didn't want me to.
She started to say she didn't feel safe at home on her own, and one night when I was going stir crazy and desperately needed adult company, I went out when she was unhappy with me going. I felt terrible about going but I checked on them regularly, felt a lot more human by the time I got home, and they'd watched a film together and she seemed fine.
Four weeks later I am talking to her about an important night out that I've been looking forward to and have offered to let her have a friend to keep her company. She is saying I shouldn't have done that before and I obviously don't care about her. Her friends can't stay the night and she doesn't want me to go out. She refuses to let me get a babysitter because she'll feel like a baby, but also refuses to babysit.
How do I resolve this knowing she's unwilling to compromise as she is 14, while considering her feelings, but not letting her rule the roost? I feel like I'm in an impossible situation.
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horrorfrog · 16/07/2013 20:53
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