Hi guys
I need some advice because I'm really stuck between a rock and a hard place.
My ex left last November. We agreed on maintainance when he left which was above what the CSa would recommend. He was fine with this agreement up until he got a new gf.
He is supposed to have our child Thursday night, Friday night and Saturday day and night, whilst I work. However he never does, his mother has our child while he stays with his gf in a different town.
Now he's decided that he can't pay the maintainance we agreed on, so we lowered it to what the CSa would suggest he paid. However he never actually has our child. It's a case of he has him when he can be bothered. I don't want to fall out with him over it or stop him seeing his son, not because of him but I would not punish his mother for his choices as she adores our child and it would hurt her if she didn't see her grandchild. But I think it's unfair of him to pay minimum maintance when he's not the one looking after our son.
It concerns me that he's not accepting his responsibility as a father and is basically taking the mick.
Do u think its worth contacting the CSa or shall I just accept that he's not particularly bothered about his son or paying the correct amount to support his son. Baring in mind I work as much as I can to support our child, so he doesn't do without. While he swans around like its nothing.
Any advice is welcome but please bare in mind this is something that worrys me, and I'm actually losing sleep over it as I sit up worrying about the fact that he puts his new life ahead of his son.
Thank you. X
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Fizzerly17 · 10/05/2013 09:15
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