lonely :-(

[cappuccinodays]

Hi everyone, I havent been on this thread for a while. I am feeling really lonely tonight. Dropped ds at his dads, the house is so quiet, i feel on autopilot most of the time and now I have stopped Im feeling really down, thinking about everything. What is everyone else doing this evening?

[babyseal]

Hi Cappucino you are not alone! I have the kids tonight but am rinsed out after a full-on day. Split with ex 7 months ago and it is only just really sinking in, so am feeling pretty low too. Was feeling pretty buoyant for the last few months but am now feeling like a big failure. He blames me completely for the break up and has started saying he is still in love with me, feel very guilty .

I am easing the pain for a couple of hours before an early night with red wine, pizza and galaxy. How about you?

[karrie8]

Wish id come on here last night my son was at his dads aswell an i was so lonely went to bed at 8pm :-/

[SPsYoniTheOneAndOnly]

I didn't see this. My son went at 4pm yesterday and isn't back til 6pm tonight. I've been stuck in the house since

[HellesBelles396]

ds's dad isn't involved but ds spends every other weekend with my parents and I hate it - I feel like such a spare part without him here

he's just come home but disappeared straight to his room (he's 12). going up shortly to pester him and find out what he's been up to

[karrie8]

Im still waiting to go and pick my son up at 4 today so lost without him and I normally get aload of hassel from his father aswell so im just waiting for some drama aswell :-(

[cappuccinodays]

Hi all
thanks for your replies. I HAVE to remind myself i am not alone in feeling this way. I ended up having a clearout last night then bed. ds due back anytime. I want to get to the stage i look forward and plan for the time alone. But i just feeling lonely and not part of anything at the moment :-(

[karrie8]

Hi
I know how you feel it is lonely I am now feeling happy as my son is back hes asleep but it feels less lonely. Im trying to slowly pull my life together I think when you've been in a relationship then not it takes a while to make friends and have a social life again. It was normally just me and my ex all the time.

[brightwell]

I'm 13 years down the line but do remember how awful it was to be alone at home while my dc were with their dad. I used to keep myself busy, housework, shopping etc. Thankfully I had a couple of good friends that I used to phone & have really long phone calls with, just to fill the silence. I used to get anxious on the run up to them going and then again waiting for them to come home. Then I started planning things.... get a film in and a supermarket take away, have friends over for a meal/drink, go out with friends. It takes time but it does get easier, I rarely get a child free commitment free weekend now, and there are times I crave the silence that I used to dread. The key is to plan your time and factor in treats. I used to look forward to having a bath in peace, reading a magazine or book and having a lie in.