I am sure DD would be upset at missing one but just being realistic about how the court would view it and your ex knows that. It isn't right but how it is and you never know on occasion you may wish to miss one or two and then it's ok for you too. A bit of flexibility is fine.
Its okay I realise you were only telling me how it is in the family courts. DD has missed one weekend with him so she could go away with cubs but like the ciourt order requests I gave 4 weeks notice. He just doesnt turn up when dd is sat waiting for him and we know nothing about the reasons why, its just so frustrating because I dont plan anything that includes dd for the weekends she is with him so everything is thrown a bit upside down. And I dont get to go out and drink heavily!!!
That is the thing narmada sadly he doesn't, only the OP can face penalties, the system needs to change. Yes she can go back get a variation and he may have contact reduced but if he doesn't want it anyway it is no loss. People of either sex can get orders and then not take it up themselves and there are no penalties. But then you would not want someone to just have contact so as not to get a penalty as that may harm the child. So whilst the system needs to change it is hard to change.
If it is out of character for your ex not to show up, I think I'd wait a while and see if it returns to normal. Seems a bit OTT to go to court just yet when things may return to normal quite quickly.
Courts offer no punitive measures AFAIK to NRP's who fail to show up for contact, they are more likely to bend in the NRP's favour tbh just to keep contact going. There's not much more they can do at the moment although I wish there was.
Thats okay don't worry about it - I know that feeling well. Basically they do have to be complied with but only by me and if I don't comply he could go back to court for an enforcement on the order which if not complied with could result in a prison sentence