Exp last spoke to me about dd three weeks ago. His last messages were about arranging contact and he said he would "speak to me tomorrow". He hasn't even contacted to ask how she is. He has managed to find the time to go to the bank and change his standing order to pay the lowest amount maintenance he can on his wages (he used to pay £10 extra a week for me to put towards treats for her).
Do I chase after him and try and arrange something? Or do I leave it up to him seeing as he is obviously choosing not to have any contact with or about dd?
He wants you to chase him and then he can acuse you of being controling but then if you don't he will acuse you of not caring, it will probably always just be about how he feels. Be strong, don't contact him and just repete the orginal arangements you made if he challenges you on not contacting him. If you have the arangements in writting in any form even better just forwrad them if he tries to make out that you are changing the arangements. I take it he is expecting you to grovel to get the additional money back to make himself feel neededd and important and better than you? if he doesn't want to give his DD treats that is up to him, I wouldn't even mention it.