Good evening all, I'm a bit of a lurker but could now use some impartial thoughts.
A little bit of background: I have two kids with ex.p, aged 5 and 7. We broke up almost four years ago and whilst things have not always been easy we have managed to come to access arrangements etc between ourselves. The children are with him every second weekend and a Tuesday evening.
Now my eldest is moving up from Beavers to Cubs which is on a Tuesday night instead of a Wednesday. For four weeks (before the holidays) eldest had to attend both clubs. Ex is able to pick up kids from school and able to drop them back to me at the end of a visit with help from friends (his car is off the road) but unable to take DS to Cubs. So I have been finishing work, driving to collect the children, (ex lives about 11 miles away, cubs and school are halfway between us) taking DS to Cubs and coming home. This doesn't totally suit me, there is stuff I like to do for myself but I did it so that DS would not miss out. But I was out of pocket on Diesel (bearing in mind that ex pays £5 a week in maintenance and has only just started paying that after a break of about 18 months).
I asked ex tonight what we are going to do about the mid-week evening at his. He asked if we could change evenings to which I have said no because Mon, Tues, and Weds we are busy with clubs and the children and I need 'us' time on a Thurs. He expected that I should continue to make the journey in his contact time to get DS to cubs - I asked for diesel money to which he said he probably wouldn't be able to. So I have left it that either he manages to get DS to cubs on his contact evening or I pick the children up from school and get DS to cubs.
Is that unfair?
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Put my foot down a bit but I hope it's fair?
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chitofftheshovel · 14/04/2013 00:29
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