Feel so sad for my son

[makemineamalibuandpineapple]

My DS(10) has seen his father approx 4 times in the last 3 years. He hadn't seen him for 12 months at all but in November last year it was agreed that he could start seeing him monthly with a weekly phone call. So far he has seen him once in January. He keeps telling my son that he will email me to arrange details of the next visit but as yet there has been no email. I just feel so sad for my son. He can be a little tyke at times but under it all, he has a heart of gold and I hate seeing him hurt. To be honest, I wish he hadn't got back in contact. The phone calls are fairly sporadic too. Last week he didn't even call as his phone was "playing up".

How do you help your children get over this sort of rejection?

[feelingsik]

I feel for you. My dc has never met the father so no direct experience on this. Did you live together as a family before the last 3 yrs?
I would remind him of all the godd things in his life, and that it is not about rejection but that his dad unfortunately is a flawed person. I would normally never want to say a bad thing about an absent father, but your ds is 10, he can understand enough, and if I saw my child blaiming himself I will be tempted to shed some light on the father, that he is not able to care for people

[PirateHat]

Agree with feeling. Your ds shouldn't feel this is because he isn't good enough but because your ex is crap at being a dad.

[MySonIsMyWorld]

Maybe you should tell ds dad to take a running jump if he carnt be arsed then he can fuck himself tell ds that dad loves him but he abit busy but he got mummy always and forever

[emmab16]

Lots of hugs, must be heartbreaking for you :(

I think all you can do is be there for him & reassure him if all the people in his life who are there for him.

Do you think you will continue with the contact (or not) with his dad?