Stbxh comes to see the kids once a fortnight. He works shifts with no set pattern and so I can't set a day for him to come (e.g. every second Sunday)
and quite often he cancels at the last minute. This week alone he cancelled Monday night (i didnt answer his call at 5.20 as I was coming home from work and in middle of the 2 childcare pickups. He was too cold so instead of starting his journey and risking me saying don't come - which I never do - he went home). He told DD last night on the phone he would come tonight but called earlier to say he has taken some overtime instead.
He pays the CSA amount but won't pay a penny more -despite childcare costs being huge as we live just outside London.
I have no-one nearby at all - so do everything on my own with kids and never have a break. He is rarely off on a weekend, so i often don't have any time to myself until kids are in bed (and DS has been a terrible sleeper, though is improving).
Tonight when he called to say he wasn't coming he started talking about divorce again. He always does this by saying I need to get the paperwork sorted. I have told him numerous times i don't have the energy to deal with it right now, but he is more than welcome to get it started. Tbh I'm not too fussed about when it happens - I have no romance on the horizon and can't imagine that i wil marry again, so no big rush for me. He brought up divorce tonight by saying he "needs to make something of his life over here"(he was living in his home country when we met, and was only able to move here under a marriage visa through me - which i did everything for but that's another story!) I don't know why, but him saying it like this has really pissed me off.
Every time he comes around/calls I end up feeling like shit. Most of the time I am quite content wth my new life, but whenever he's been round I feel despondent about the fact I never get a break. He's never even suggested having them overnight. He won't say where he lives, I assume a bedsit though.
Oh, I don't know what the point of this thread is - I suppose because I have no-one to talk to i just want to off-load somewhere!
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marryinhaste · 18/01/2013 19:07
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