We split up over 4 years ago in that time i have had a new partner for 2/ 1/2 years which i kept away fromt he children. he was a lovely guy but i knew he didnt want to be part of a family unit so they never really met him only as my friend a handfull of times. Meaning we did not act like a couple in front of the kids. This relationship ended cause even though he was lovely i knew he wasnt the one to come into our family for living with me. Then a few months ago i met a new guy and i feel he is wanting to be part of a family unit and would be better around the kids. My ex has had a girlfriend for almost 3 years. Because the kids never really mentioned another man and even though i know lots of men and they do hang around us he has gone really mad that i have a new man around the kids and that he got them a present (a majicians set) and when he asked my son who it was from and my son said mummys friend he went mental at me. He always said that he has accepted that a man will one day be around them but that seems to be a lie and is not the case. The kids 8 & 9 one with special needs dont like seeing my ex much and only want to see him on a set day each week. Ex has now demanded that he has them more. My beleif is that he doesnt want them around the new guy. The kids really dont want to see me ex any more than they are. He has never been a hands on dad and has alwasy neglected them in phone calls and turning up and also cancelling how many days he sees them for. These are some of the reasons why they dont want to see him really but are not all of them.
So my ex can be at his girlfriends house with her kids but i cant have anyone around me that appears to be a threat to him.. i am so angry.. double standards huh.. thats why i have been cautious in having someone staying at my house as i new this would happen.. aarrgghhh..
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mummycare · 27/12/2012 19:04
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