Background 1st - DD is 7 and developed atopic eczema at about 3/4 mths old. This was managable up until she was about 3 (not long after we split) when said fuckwit ex allowed his g/f's sister to paint DD's face with the sort of face paint that was more like paint stripper. Fucking arse. Anyhoo.
Since then, DD's face has been the worst area for her eczema, her eyes and around her mouth get really dry/sore/cracked skin and at various times it's been bad/not so bad but never cleared up. I've spent months/years with her at dermatology clinics, speaking to doctor/nurse etc. trying various combinations of creams/ointments etc. trying to get a grip on things. It's been established that either she'll grow out of it (at some point, still waiting) or we just have to manage is as best we can. I've got a combo of washes and creams that we use, and as long as her skin is maintained it's OK - gets worse in extreme weather i.e. really hot/really cold, but again we just adjust and get on with it. DD herself is really sensitive about it as her friends at school point out her skin when it's bad, and it's been a battle getting her to manage her skin herself at school which is where it's hard to keep it moisturised so it gets worse etc.
Through all this, ex clearly doesn't listen to a word I say. He has said few times he doesn't think her cream is working anymore. Because it's not 'curing' her face problems. He now thinks he's 'cured' the flare ups on her hands with some body shop body butter shite (with glitter no less). So announces that he's going for some more, without the glitter, for her face. There is so fucking little that she'll tolerate on her face as everything stings and the only thing she will tolerate is the fucking cream we use. The stuff he thinks just makes her face look greasy.
He sees her sporadically but is claiming the shite he's put on her hands arms every couple of months has magically cured her. Never been to the dermatology clinic to actually hear what the nurse/doctor has told me. Repeatedly. And her hands have got better because I make sure she doesn't use soaps, moisturises with her cream etc.
And of course, when the shite he buys causes her face to flare up, who will be the one to have to deal with the tears, frustrations and endless rubbing/scratching that will inevitably follow? Yup, muggins here.
It's just the sheer stupidity of the man that riles me at times. My fucking thumbs are sore from texting and trying, yet again, to explain why that isn't a good idea, and that actually, if he just actually washed her while at his, applied some cream overnight, topped up in the morning and reminded her to wash her hands after touching his dog/dog toys, then maybe her skin wouldn't flare up as much.
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Venting again in my 'safe' place <sigh> Fucking Fucking Arse!
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bananaistheanswer · 17/11/2012 23:19
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