in january EXp informed me that he would be reducing the amount of child maintenance by £50 per month because he and his DP were buying a house and the dcs would be staying at his house every weekend. it hit me hard because it was exactly the same time as the HB cuts took effect and i was suddenly over £100 down per month. added to the fact he gave me 1 days notice of this and it meant i went over agreed overdraft, it really affected my finances as i incurred charges. i was quite upset but i could understand his reasoning so i didn't dispute it. since then he has bought his house (in april) gotten engaged and just today turned up in a new BMW but the dcs have been to stay at his house a total of 10 nights and the child maintenance has continued to drop without notice til now when it is now £100 less than it was in january, going down by £10 or £20 at a time. when it first happened i asked him why it was less and he said that he had been off work sick (this is true) so he hadn't earnt as much. i accepted that. the next time it happened i asked him again and he mumbled an answer about pay cuts and not being on the ship (he's in the navy). it's now happened again and TBH i dont even know if it's worth asking him why as i dont think he would tell me the truth. i dont know anything about how much he would be earning or whether he'll have had a pay cut. but i do know that car he rocked up in today wasn't cheap. i'm considering contacting the CSA but i dont want to rock the boat and make things bad when we have sort of being getting on. do the CSA ask for proof of his income or do they just take his word for it that what he tells them is right? i'm now getting £100 less per month for the dcs than i was 10 months ago and things really aren't getting any cheaper. tbh it pissed me off today when i saw his new car. he told me he was getting a runaround, i really wasn't expecting what turned up.
anyway. what do you think i should do? ask him or just go to CSA?
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BeingBooyhoo · 31/10/2012 20:51
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