Bit random but I'm not sure if I'm in the right or not. My ex has our daughters one or two odd days a month (this is his choice - I have tried everything to establish more regular contact and failed). However, how much notice is reasonable for this? I work Mon - Fri so tend to like to plan things for weekends and i live in a city and you need to book into kiddy classes and stuff at least a month in advance so ideally I would like 4 weeks notice. Today he rang and gave me October and November dates - he wants them two days in half term (which is a bit of a nuisance as I had already booked them into childcare and will probably loose a bit of money for those two days but I have rearranged to fit in with him) and the 10th Nov. Now the 10th Nov is my bf's birthday and I have totally planned the day so I said no. He said he was giving me more that 4 weeks notice, I said yes but this was a very special event that I had booked ages ago. Bf if going to be driving a steam train for the day and I want the girls there to celebrate with him. I'm happy for him to have them any other day in Nov and often cancel things to fit in around him but i really don't want to cancel this as I will lose the deposit and the next course is in April and there is already only 1 space left! Am I being selfish? Or am I right to stick to my guns that this is one thing I am not willing to cancel? Both girls are very close to bf and adore steam trains and my eldest has helped me plan so they would know they were missing out.
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