Exh and I seperated in August. We have 3 DC's ages 12, 9 and 4.
Exh was both verblelly and physically abusive to me. On the day we split he went for me whilst I had dd on my lap nearly braking my wrist. I had enough then and asked him to leave. He refused so I called my parents who came and he left.
I got a call from him and I said that he was not coming back and then he put his mum on the phone who told me not to be so silly and forget about what had happend! I sai no and she told his dad who shouted down the phone that he "will kick the fucking door down the I would have to take him back." I said that if they came I would phone the police and hung up. The DC's were stood right next to me and heard his dads threats.
Exh has been seeing the children since he left at my house with me supervising. He has been casuly metioning that he wents the DC's for a week end and I have said no. On sat we were talking arrangements for the fair (where he lives now with his parents) I said I would take the DC's up on the bus and we could all go to the fair then I would bring them home again.
He was not happy with this and said that he was going to have the DC's for the weekend. He would get the bus back, (he works 5 mins away for my house) and I would take the DC's plus overnight stuff to his parents house then come back home.
I said no it was not going to happen and he got nasty again so I told him to calm down or he could leave. He then the started shouting at me telling me I was being silly and that his dad was having a "panic attack" when he threated me. I said that if his dad threatend violance when he had a panick attack the its not safe for the DC's to be there.
he then left after kissing DD bye not the DS's and shouting to them that he would not see them again.
He called to say night to the DC's last night and i let them speak to him he said to DS1 that he will see them today. Not asking me if it was ok. He was ussing not seeing the DC's as a threat to make me change my mind. I do not want him to come today. Whould it be wrong of me not to let him come?
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NessaRose · 01/10/2012 09:05
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