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vampiresdontsparkle Thu 27-Sep-12 21:36:49

hey me and my ex split 4 weeks ago, and he is in love with our mate and she loves him to, they are getting together when he moves out next week. i dont really know why im writing here, but i need to get it out.

i feel so bloody hurt and betrayed by them both, shes married but they split up at the same time, she moving down here from 3 hours away.

we were together 11 1/2 years with 2 dc. i did everything for him and our family and he replaced me!!!

they flirted before when we were together and even discussed if they would get together and how long they would take (they said they wouldnt rush anything!!)

sorry its all jumbled and im crying so sorry for any typos ect.

im not expecting any replies, i just dont want to keep banging on to my mum and two best friends about it all.

SaraSidle Thu 27-Sep-12 21:40:48

Aww bless you! What a pair!

But.... It won't be all a bed of roses for them, take some comfort from that. And I'm fairly certain they will have trouble ahead from her marriage break up. All you can do is take care of yourself and your children

Chin up! Things will get easier for you

MrsjREwing Thu 27-Sep-12 21:50:27

They will never trust each other.

You and her oh will have been dehumanised, don't expect empathy from them ever for you or dc.

getrealandgetalife Thu 27-Sep-12 21:51:25

karma's a right bitch... they will get it back!

vampiresdontsparkle Thu 27-Sep-12 22:06:08

i wish i never had to see them ever again, but he is the father of my dc and she has two dds the oldest one will be going to school with mine so i will see her every day at school.

can they rub it in anymore!

im hoping karma gets them, but im hoping more to be happy and for my kids to be happy. maybehisdickwillfalloff wink

i told him they wont last and he said they will cos he knows where we went wrong! sad

sorry i just feel all over the place atm.

pictish Thu 27-Sep-12 22:08:52

Aw oh no! Having to look at her every day at school will be awful. Have they no sensitivity?

Fuxache OP - I feel for you.

SavoyCabbage Thu 27-Sep-12 22:12:20

I bloody bet you feel all over the place! How horrible. What a utter bitch she must be.

Don't let those bastards be in charge of you. Don't let him stay until next week! And you can move too if you want. If you want to later I mean. Not straight away. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do just to make their lives easier.

vampiresdontsparkle Thu 27-Sep-12 22:13:11

how the fuck do i cope with it? i know i will because i will have to, but really!!

MrsjREwing Thu 27-Sep-12 22:14:21

Yeah that old clap trap. Being on your own a year or two will be the making of you op. You will thrn be happy and know what went wrong you married a deluded gaslighting cheat around the time they will be miserable due to the fact he is the problem.

Move schools.

PickledFanjoCat Thu 27-Sep-12 22:15:00

Aw love it's dreadful. You must be feeling really betrayed.

I hope karma does a good job.

PickledFanjoCat Thu 27-Sep-12 22:15:23

Do you live in a small town?

vampiresdontsparkle Thu 27-Sep-12 22:25:06

i cant move schools, and town is smallish!

i am looking forward to being on my own, i have never been on my own (totally outing myself but will name change in a min, i was 13 when we got together 25 now!)

and i know happiness is the best revenge but i will keep fantasying about all the stuff i would like to do to them both!!

its the replacing me that hurts so much, a month thats all it took forhimtoadmittolovingher i hate him!!

SavoyCabbage Thu 27-Sep-12 22:26:34

I would lean hard on my family and my friends.

I remember when my dad died someone saying to my mam 'is there anything I can do?' and she asked them if they could come and cut the lawn through the summer. She was pulling everybody in to her as a way of getting through the next couple of months, as well as getting practical things done, and letting people know they were needed.

And you have your wonderful children.

vampiresdontsparkle Thu 27-Sep-12 22:29:24

thank you to everyone for all your words. thanks

i have already moaned and bitched so much to them i dont want to keep doing it. they have been so fantastic as well. xx

MrsjREwing Thu 27-Sep-12 22:33:58

I am not clear waa it an affair?

vampiresdontsparkle Thu 27-Sep-12 22:39:48

well they say nothing happened but they flirting and briefly discussed if they would ever get together. me and ex were going through a bit of a rut but nothing that couldnt of been fixed with some work!

less than 24hrs after we split he asked her for pics and she sent them!!

i want to believe that nothing happened but i dont trust them as far as i can throw them!

MrsjREwing Thu 27-Sep-12 22:42:46

I would eat my hat if it was not an affair.

Right you need to learn to trust again and start operation I feel shit, and you two will be the last to know.

What makes you feel good, any hobbies you fancy taking up?

CouthyMowWearingOrange Thu 27-Sep-12 22:45:31

What a pair of knobbers. Maybe he'll get scrote rot?

vampiresdontsparkle Thu 27-Sep-12 22:51:24

i already do marshal arts, and me and my mum are going to do xstitch (going to do a baby one for my friends little boy) going to start running aswell when he has dc.

im going to have a clean house! and after xmas im going to start looking into getting some qualifications as i will be able to study in the evenings and get myself a job.

and i will be happy, and in a few years i will have a fantastic partner who looks like this......

queenofthepirates Thu 27-Sep-12 22:57:13

You have my full permission to apply to c-word for the pair of them, they are an utter pair of. You will be happy again though whilst their bottoms will roast in the blazing fires of Hades with a poker up it. A hot poker. A big hot poker whilst you frolic with your lovely new partner (one day) who worships the ground you walk on.

vampiresdontsparkle Thu 27-Sep-12 23:04:15

again thank you all for the kind words. it really helps.

im going to name change now. thank you all so much.

thanks smile thanks

CremeEggThief Thu 27-Sep-12 23:12:34

What a pair of fucking cunts!

I hope they cause each other pain and suffering, selfish bastards! angry

thanks for you, OP. You will get there.

PickledFanjoCat Thu 27-Sep-12 23:20:44

Brilliant goals. Do stuff for yourself and make a success of what you do. That's the best way to show them.

They are weasels, they have been sniffing around each other and I hope they discover that they both smell of weasel

Onwards, upwards!

MrsTomHardy Fri 28-Sep-12 00:03:19

I know exactly how you are feeling and i too have spent the last 3 years seeing my ex bestfriend up at the local school, she is now my sons stepmum.......

Hold your head high and keep a smile on your face.....dont rise to anything...nothing will annoy them more smile

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