Single parent, Xh (ds's father) disappeared three and a half years ago. He pays nothing, I don't know where he is.
After getting myself together a bit I started working self-employed. Claim 25 hours a week working and child tax credit.
6 weeks ago had a breakdown. packed in work. living on savings since. Have no family - either my own or ex'in laws as they blanked us when exh ran away.
Problem is ds goes to cm three days a week and I don't know what to do about tax credits. I want to tel them I'm not working now but don't know how to say I am ill so can't work and actually can't face going to gp as scared of beign referred to ss or something.
But if I tell them then I will lose my working tax credits.... and then can't afford for DS to go to CM..which in turn will make me more ill. I am sick with worry and upset.
I probably dont qualify for job seekers or incapacity as have savings. yes I could spend all my savings but then ds will have nothing and as he has no relations and no dad then that will be shit for him.
tbh I feel like topping myself as am exhausted and ill.
any help or just a conversation about how crap i have managed it all after ex disapeared will be good.
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Gangsta · 17/10/2011 20:36
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