...I hope I don't start driving you all nuts now, picking your brains, but Google just doesn't seem to be answering some of the queries I have...
Background is that I've just left my husband, have a one year old and am pregnant with twins. (I know, what a mess... )
Anyway. I've just been wondering what my husband's rights actually are with regards to our children? How often is he entitled to visit DS now? Is he able to insist on having him away overnight? Do I have to grit my teeth and spend all of my time, every weekend in his company? As for the overnights, they make me feel very uneasy... He's never once put DS to bed and never once done a night feed (excuses being he "doesn't hear him" and "he settles better for you anyway"). DS has a lot of upheval in his life right now and I just feel that I'm his one constant and I want to be there for him.
Also, as for the twins... From what I've gathered from Google, I don't have to allow H to be present at the birth, but once they're born, they're our joint responsibility...? Does that mean H has the right to come in once they're born? Can I ask him to wait till I've had a shower/been stitched, etc and am no longer feeling at my most vulnerable? Then how soon can he "take them off me"? Can he insist on taking them overnight on their first night home from hospital, for example? I must sound so possesive but I want time to bond with my babies (as I'm sure he will and that's why I want to be as accomodating as possible, even if it means him sleeping on my couch for a bit) but I want to get breastfeeding established, get into a routine... After all, it'll be me left on my own with all three of them when he goes away again...
Thoughts? Again, thanks in advance for any replies.
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NewlySingleMum · 13/10/2011 14:18
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