Please help me
My ex and myself split up about 7 months ago. We were married for 5 years and seeing each other for at least 9.
we fell pregnant after trying for 5 years and were both very happy. The day of her birth was the happiest day of our lives. She is 21 months old
However, in march this year we split, i believed he wasnt spending enough time with myself and our daughter, but we do not disagree about why we split. I started seeing someone before we split up, nothing happened, but the was there for me and caring while my husband was not. My husband is not aware of this
Obviously when i asked him to leave he was upset, but we agreed to be amicable, we made a private agreement regarding child maintinance and i was happy for him to see our child whenever he wanted.
Until recently this was working out fine, he had her every weekend overnight, and see her whenever he could.
Recently however, the communicatio has broken down between us, and we have had to go through mediation.
At mediation he told me he now only wanted to see our child every other weekend and that was it, no visits or phonecalls inbetween, as he needed his own time and space (he has a new partner now aswell) and that our child is not the centre of his world.
As you can imagine this upset me quite alot, but in mediation i reluctly agreed. However, on thinking about it, he has changed an awful lot, he is more agressive to me when he sees me, and to his parents.
Him saying that our child is not the centre of his universe has made me very angry and concerned, so i spoke to him and have told him now, i do not want him seeing my child.
I am concerned for her safety and welfare when she is with him, due to him saying that she is not the centre of world he obviously has other priorites.
I received a message from him saying he was serving me divorce papers which is the first ive heard of things and that its either every fortnight or not at all, and he will take me to court to do this.
Now i am concerned he will not see her at all, or if he comes to my house he will become agressive towards me.
My daughter doesnt talk about daddy alot, but does mention her grandma a lot(my ex is now living with his parents).
Any suggestions would be greatly apprichated
Thank you
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kelmac · 06/10/2011 15:04
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