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how long before introducing new man to my children

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queenofthedancefloor Sun 02-Oct-11 20:09:31

Hi all i would like some advice please...I have been dating this guy now for only six weeks which is not long. I think we are falling for eachother though in a big way. Up to now he has never met my children however i think that it isinevitable that they are going to meet soon. How do i intoduce them? Do I just say hi this is my friend x.? Do i do it at home or do i get him to meet us out somewhere and go somewhere nice for the day?. I know it hasnt been long and am not going to introduce them just yet but when is the right time do you all think and how should i go about it do you think? One of my friends said i shoukd introduce them now although i am unsure......

queenofthedancefloor Sun 02-Oct-11 20:17:22

Anybody? Any ideas?

fuckityfuckfuckfuck Sun 02-Oct-11 20:20:58

Absolutely do not do it now. It's far far too early and your friend is being irresponsible to suggest you introduce them now. Leave it at least another 3 months, preferably longer, and then introduce him truthfully, as your boyfriend. Not to be thr voice of doom, but if you introduce each man you go out with after such a short time, that's a lot of potential dates your dc are going to meet. MAke sure you wait til you're sure this relationship has a proper future.After 6 weeks you know nothing about each other.

girliefriend Sun 02-Oct-11 21:31:36

I am not sure, how old are your children?

Wait a bit longer but I know when I started a new relationship my bf met my then baby dd after about 6wks. Partly due to the fact that as a single parent it was very difficult to find enough time to go on dates whereas once he met my dd we could spend as much time together as we wanted iyswim?

However saying that we split up after 6 months and as dd was so young she was non the wiser, now she is older I would be much more cautious.

queenofthedancefloor Mon 03-Oct-11 20:45:45

thanks guys it is difficult mine range from 8 to 4 so are a bit older so yes i gues it does get a bit harder lol....

queenofthedancefloor Mon 03-Oct-11 20:48:13

and yes i think my friend is a bit wrong to say introduce but it could be just introduce as a mate it just difficult seeing someone when you a single parent obviously and it would just be easier if he could come over more you know. I mean he has come over when they are in bed but bless him when he did stay over i had to kick him out at 6 am before the children got up lol

piellabakewell Mon 03-Oct-11 22:51:04

I waited four months. Until then, he never came to the house when they were here. They are 12 and 14 now so not exactly tucked up in bed by 8pm! By the time they met, I had already spent a great deal of time with him including a holiday and was absolutely confident that introducing them to each other was the best thing to do. I worried for weeks about it, even so. Six months later, we are more in love than ever and he and the girls absolutely adore each other.

queenofthedancefloor Mon 03-Oct-11 23:54:00

aww piella thats a lovely story... I am definately going to hold off with him meeting them. I feel bad that i let him stay over but babysitting can be a tad tricky for me lol. Yours is a lovely story. Thanks for advice i am sticking with my initial instinct on this one now and we will see how things go.

galleywench100 Tue 04-Oct-11 20:15:32

I waited 6 weeks, but ds was only 3. we are still together 2 yrs later....do what feels right for you.

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