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I'm a new member. I got pregnant when I was a teenager, living in an abusive home. I had no idea how to cope and although I tried when my daughter was 2 years old I left her to be raised by my family and I took off to try to sort my life out ( I didn't feel I had anything to offer my daughter). She has known me as she's been growing up but when I was ready to take her back she decided she'd rather not live with me. She has now turned 20. She is at university. For the past two years she has refused to give me her address (I just know that she lives in a rented flat somewhere near the university). When her birthdays are coming up I call her and text her asking for her address so that I can send her a present. I also invite her to have lunch so I can give her her present and card then. She completely ignores my messages (does not pick up the phone, or reply to texts or emails) but then when her birthday passes and she obviously receives no card or present from me in the post she has begun telling everybody who will listen "my mother doesn't give sh*t about me, she hasn't even bothered to send me a birthday card." It's just happened again this year.
I've been considering hiring a private detective to get her address so that I can send her her birthday card and present. But I'm wondering if in fact it is time to let go?? I've asked my family members for her address but they pretend not to have it.
I've been racked with guilt for the past 20 years because of my daughter not living with me. I've not moved on with my life and have avoided having any form of relationships with men etc. My daughter absolutely hates me. I'm wondering if perhaps it is time to move on?
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PollySE12 · 20/09/2011 22:10
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