Hi,
when ex went at the beginning of the summer amid huge rows and threats of all sorts - emotional abuse, ex's MH issues, I told DS, 3, that Daddy wasn't very well and couldn't see him at the moment. Now that line is wearing a bit thin.
Ex has refused all efforts at contact, no phone calls. I reluctantly agreed to mediation and then was quite prepared to do it, but has now cried off as he will have to pay. Even contact with DS's gran has stopped, for the moment at least, because ex has told her not to see DS.
I don't know what to say to DS anymore. He talks about his Dad, points out things he used to do with him, says things like when my daddy comes home I'll do x or y.
Is it ok about continuing to tell DS that his Dad is ill? I don't know what to say and am starting to dread reading any books with Dads in as he always talks about his and I get angry and upset at his Dad's behaviour.
Also am worried re starting to look round schools soon. Ex has PR and therefore has right to be involved in such decisions - schooling was something we disagreed on. Should I write and keep him informed of major decisions or leave it. I worry because ex, if he reappear, has a habit of blaming me for things. Also worried that one day we will bump into him out shopping. He still lives in same town.
Am angry that ex and his mum are punishing me but most importantly hurting DS who at least needs some involvement from his dad's family.
Any advice?
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notsorted · 20/09/2011 20:55
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