Background: I have separated from DD's dad since May this year and our relationship is inexistent. Before we separated he didn't help that much with DD or the house. It was my responsability because I was not working (according to him) and because I gave up my job to look after DD after my maternity leave ended. He never did one night or put her in bed while we were together. He never participated in anything related to DD not even when we had to wean her. DD is 2.2 years old
So now we are stroggling to do things in the right way. Today I forgot to send him a text (we had a busy day) letting him know what she had for lunch and I got this nasty lovely text from him saying that it was a shame I was incapable of not consistently letting him know what I was giving DD for lunch. My reply was that it was a shame that he was incapable to co-parent with me which he reply how exactly he should co-parent with me. I know I should not have got into the texting game but I just had enough. Last week she came back from having dinner at his house (middle of the week) eating sweets at 8pm and when I told him to please not to give her sweets he said that eating sweets was ok. That night I could not put DD in bed until 9:45pm. I also asked him not to give her lolly pops which he answered he has not done. I explain him that she has been asking for lolly pops everytime she has seen one and I have never given her one and then he said that he gives her lolly pops every now and then (which translate to probably everytime she is with him). Last saturday she didn't wanted to eat after spending the whole day with him and a friend was around and I said to my friend that probably she had been eating sweets the whole day and DD said yes with this lovely grin in her face.
So how am I supposed to co-parent with someone who is impossible to talk and who would deny everything unless I can prove that he has done something? He has not even bother asking in all this time how DD is settling or anything. How do you do it?
Any advice much appreciated. Thanks in advance
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itsnotpossibleisit · 13/09/2011 23:00
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