Exdp moved out about 2.5 years ago now - my decision - one of the main reasons being that he lies. Seemingly about anything and everything, including silly little things that never mattered.
I have 3 dc's, the eldest had a different dad. We get on really well and still consider ourselves as very good friends. I know I am lucky that we have managed to acheiev this.
So, my exdp (and the father of my younger 2 dc's) and I have really struggled to find a way to get on. He has spent much of the last 2.5 years telling me he still loves me, etc, etc, etc. We go through phases of getting on really nicely to not even liking each other in the slightest.
Anyway, I have finally decided that he and I won't be able to have the friendly relationship that I have with my other exdp and that I am just going to have to make our contact very black and white and for the children, insetad of trying to be friends.
But it really saddens me that I know he tells lies about me. Whilst it shouldn't matter, we live in the same town and therefore do come across the same people. I know that anyone that really knows me won't listen to the things he says about me, but I can't help but care that a) someone who claims/claimed to love me could still be so hurtful and b) that people I pass who know my face think I am a complete bitch and that he was a loving and wonderful partner to me.
I also feel really and truly sorry for anyone he meets in the future knowing that they will fall for his charm and not realise til much later that they can't actually trust a word he says.
My head accepts that I can't do anything to change his behaviour, either towards me or anyone else, but I am still very heavy hearted about it and really want to find a way to not let it get me down.