DH wants to live apart. We may split, but we may just live apart and try to carry on as a couple. I'm pretty upset, worried how DS (6) will take it. Also I DON'T want to leave our home, DH says we should rent it out and get two separate flats. He said this was because one of us couldn't afford to stay in it on our own. So I worked out a way to stay in it financially, get a lodger etc., but now he says he doesn't want me to stay in it as he'll feel like he's been kicked out, or DS will fell like Daddy's left him. I think there'll be less upheaval for DS if he can stay on in the house he loves. Less upset for me if I can stay on in the house I love. We are seeing a counsellor next week and need to present the pros and cons of all the various living options. What arguments can I present for me and DS staying on in the family home? Is it generally thought to be good for the child to stay in the family home rather than be moved?
DH thinks we'll do 50/50 parenting, but he thinks we do 50/50 now, and it's simply not true (I do much more). I want to find concrete reasons to tell him why it's generally thought to be better if the kid stays on with the Mum in the family home, I know this is often how a spilt goes (i/e mum stays on at the home with the kids) but I don't know the reasons given for this, by the judge, child experts etc. I am desperately unhappy and distraught.
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How can I convince my DH that I should stay in family home with DS?
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polymear · 10/09/2011 18:21
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