I could cheerfully throttle XP today. He has not seen DD for almost 17 weeks, just one excuse after another, that's when he can be bothered to think of an excuse.
He has been a rubbish dad from the word go, always banging on about his rights, but shows no responsibility at all.
He has tried to prove me an unfit mother and made various allegations, all of which have been unfounded, although he cleverly convinced his Xg/f I was a raving lunatic, who was a danger to DD.
He has since split up with Xg/f and within a very short space of time has taken up with another girlfriend in a very long list.
He has told this g/f and anyone who will listen that I do not allow him to see DD, I am evil and cold hearted.
Anyway, he has been in contact for the last few weeks and arranged a couple of weeks ago that he would see DD last Saturday, and today. He said he would see her both days because last Saturday was going to be little more than me being a glorified taxi driver for him for an hour or so, but of course, he would sit in the back of my car with DD, and spend the hour I am driving around with DD.
Turns out he was too ill last Saturday to come and see DD, suits me, I didn't particularly want to be a glorified taxi driver and I think DD deserves to spend some quality time with him, not just a journey in the back of a car.
Roll forward to last night. He phones me and says due to the rioting, he is concerned he wont be able to catch a train to meet us. He says if the trains are running, he will meet as planned.
This morning, no text or phonecall from him, and he wouldn't answer his phone when I rang him. I texted him and asked him why he didn't turn up? No reply. He was supposed to meet us 3 and a half hrs ago, but instead, he has decided the silent treatment is what we're going to get instead.
If there was a checklist of what makes a rubbish dad, he would tick practically every single box!!! I'm quite sure of it.
I so want to say 'No, you will not be seeing DD again!!' I cannot see a single way he benefits her life. I honestly do not think IABU to completely cut him out.
Obviously there is much more to this situation, but I don't want to bore you all.
I am also tempted to send his g/f a message, addressed to him, to ask him why he is such an unreliable parent. Would kill 2 birds with one stone, would get the message through to him (too long to text) and would show his g/f that I do not prevent contact.
I probably wont do that though, but this 'keeping it all in, getting on with it, smile and hold my head high just isn't helping anyone. I want to rip his shitty fucking little head off and shove it up his arse!!!!!
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Am seething with rage at XP...just a rant really.
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littlemisssarcastic · 09/08/2011 14:29
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