I don't want to stop him having contact, but I'm furious that he's left it so long and then expects just to swan back in like nothing has changed. DS is 2.9 and stopped asking about him a while ago, and never talks about him any more, I'm not sure how he will react. XP used to take him out for 5 hours, but I don't know whether he will be upset by this. When we split he was 13 months and contact started off with my mum taking him to see XP for a couple of hours at a time, every day at first, then he took him out on his own, but again for a couple of hours, a few days a week. After a few weeks we settled on this 5 hours saturday, 5 hours sunday arrangement. Then he was really flaky about it and used to cancel at the last minute all the time.
I'm going to talk to DS and see how he reacts to the idea, but I'm not sure what to say to XP - do I go straight for the arrangement we had before, or should I try to build up contact slowly again? I definitely don't want XP coming into the house but I would consider meeting in a public place until DS got used to him again, as long as this was temporary.
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BertieBotts · 16/07/2011 14:00
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