Hi,
Am I being unreasonable?
I left my partner last year after lots of shouting, arguing, and bullying. I let him live in my house, rent free for a period up whilst he allegedly got sorted. Xmas last year I agreed he could spend Xmas eve at my house with our 3 year old, but he was so angry and nasty I left the house for a few hours whilst he calmed down, and then came home later to find his key in my door and I had to wake him up to get back in my house. (I must point out I hadn't been drinking and merely thought it best to get out of the house before the situation got worse in front of our daughter)
Since then he has lost his job, got a new one at a much lower salary, given me the sum total of £45 since Jan towards upkeep, oh, and ran up a £500 phone bill that he doesn't have the means to pay and therefore I have to cover it. I am not even going to go into the vitriol he has spouted, calling me a sl*g etc when he is angry and she is next to me and can see and hear all that he says.
his family live about 300 miles away in Scotland, and my daughter see's them once a year - if that.
He now advises me that he wants to take my daughter away from the 23rd Dec until the 27th Dec. I have said no, she doesn't know them well enough, there is no where for her to stay, and her Aunts, Uncles, Cousins and grand parents that she sees weekly will all be here.
I have no problem with hinm taking her to visit them any other time of year, but bearing in mind the complete lack of financial support, emotional support over the last year, and indeed means to transport her there other than a lenghthy train journey I am saying no. If they want to come to him at Xmas obv I will make arrangements so that they spend time with her, e.g. Xmas eve and Xmas day morn.
Am I being unreasonable?
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MIT1973 · 12/07/2011 14:01
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