I have posted on here before about abuse ex p and hoping for some advice from those who have more experience of system than me.
I called police on my exp a number of times - pre and post splitting - mainly verbal abuse and threats to kill.
The SS are involved and done a full assessment and classified my kids 3 and 5 are Children in Need.
SS are fully on board that my exp is aggressive and had serious anger issues and supportive of my suspending contact.
I am finding it massively stressful that SS are involved however as they are not communicating to me clearly about what is going on and I feel blaming me for putting kids in situation where dad has kicked off occasionally (not to minimise this behaviour but to explain why i had facilitated contact).
Next steps is a family group conference and my children school head has been invited as well as child physch (older son has emotional and social problems) and health visitor as well as me (not dad).
I am not sure what i need to do or say in the meeting - basically i was dealing with this with my solicitor and suspending contact until dad did something to sort himself out.
I am not sure what ss can add and I really don?t like their attitude on the one hand (they think all women fall into a pattern of returning to their exp, but i do not fall into thei category and we have been separated for 2 years - i only saw him to facilitate childrens contact) so very wary of their being involved. They think I was too nice to him and my lack of boundaries lead to DV [hmmm].
However, on the other hand I guess they might be useful (or is that just naive??). Anyway I know i need to engage with them and co-operate.
Any ideas / suggestions what I should be pointed out to them or what goes on in these meetings?
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gingerrapunzel · 27/06/2011 22:56
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