I guess that like me there must be more of you in here. After being 6 years with a person who I thought it was "the one" you realised that all was a lie. At some point you realised that it was not working and decided to separate. Once outside that relationship you can see the light and you see how controlling you XP was in all aspects: emotionally, economically...
Suddenly you realised that your self-esteem which used to be very good has gone to the bin and you now need to work on it to bring it back. How do you do this?
Also you realise that your XP is still trying to control you in different ways even though we are not togehter anymore and you are not sure what to do because for the last 6 years it has been the rule. How do you stop this from happening?
I guess that my general question is how long does it take for all the wounds to heal?
I always thought that I was a clever person and I just can't understand how I haved cope with all that crap for so long without seeing it. Now my friends are telling me that they saw it a while ago. Why didn't they tell me anything? They say that they have all seen all the changes that have been happening in me. Why didn't they told me so I could have seen i earlier? I guess that they didn't want to hurt me (I am not blaming them, they are fantastc and I am getting plenty of support from them on this difficult time).
Can you spare your experiences please. Thank you
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yetama · 26/06/2011 22:55
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