Hi, I'm new here so apologies that I'm not up to speed with all the abbreviations
My ex and I had a daughter before Dec 2003 (she's nearly nine now) so he doesn't have automatic parental responsibility even though he is named on her birth certificate. Relations between us are good and he pays his maintenance, sees our daughter regularly and takes her on holidays. We agree on all the major decisions in her life so no problems there either. The one thing my ex is worried about though is, if (heaven forbid) I were to die, would my daughter have to go into care while the courts decide if he can look after her or not? I had always assumed she would automatically go to live with her dad so didn't see any need to get anything down legally to make sure he could. My ex says that a friend of his had this exact problem but it could just have been because he wasn't on speaking terms with the mum. I can't think of anything worse to happen to my daughter than being put into care when her father would be more than willing and more than capable of caring for her in the event of my death! I just assumed that, apart from me, her father was her next of kin so didn't forsee a problem. Am I seeing things through rose-tinted glasses or are my assumptions right? I hope someone here can clear this up because he has got me worried now!
I really don't think so. Not as he's on the birth certificate. Plus she's old enough to say that he's her dad and they have a good relationship and she wants to be with him. The last thing social services would want to do is add any further trauma to her life by putting her in care even if for a short while. I'm sure it wouldn't happen.
This Parental Responsibility form is a legal document which the mother must sign. It must be witnessed and filed with the Principal Registry (in England) or registered in the Books of Council and Session (in Scotland). The document includes instructions on how to complete it and where it should be registered
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Have you sort advice on your will only leaving everything to a minor isn;t really agood move as she can't get to it until she's an adult. You'd be better off with a neutral but trusted person to be executor.. yo'll get better legal advice on the legal board but that is what I was told. I have left everything to my mother with the understanding she pays 'maintenance' each month to my DD's dad as that is who she will live with.
Yes, MaryCorporate is right; the executor and guardian should always be separate people in order to avoid any conflict of interest. The guardian can then negotiate with the executor for the child's upkeep to come out of the trust fund.