DS dad is a musician/composer/producer/idiot. When he has work on, he is constantly busy with meetings/recordings/rehearsals/just working to deadlines. I never know from one day to the next when he will be seeing DS. I will just be informed that he has the following day free, or like father's day he was due to have DS, but in the morning when I tried to find out if I was taking or he was collecting, he hadn't got his work finished so couldn't have him after all. DS is only 10M so no big deal atm, but I don't want things to continue like this once DS is more aware.
Despite what XP may think, I bend over backwards to try to accomodate his chaotic lack of schedule, often at the expense of my own plans. XP is incapable of making any sort of concrete arrangement i.e ''What time will you come and get him?'' ''I'm not sure yet, just waiting to hear back about such-and-such'' ''Are you having him overnight?'' ''I don't know yet, I might have to go to the studio''. It's just utterly impossible. And although I am just on benefits at the mo so not doesn't make a great deal of difference to my life, in time I will be going back to work and will need to arrange childcare etc.
Of course I want DS to see his dad lots, but how can we continue like this? Unless DS dad gets a 9-5 (which he would rather slit his throat than do), I don't see how we will ever have a regular arrangement.
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circlehead · 20/06/2011 18:21
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