I've got a text from 20th May saying "contact stops from now on", one on the 30th May saying "I cannot keep up the contact" and today I got the lovely "I can't be arsed to deal with her anymore."
DD will be four next month. Court ordered contact is every Sunday during the day, with occasional Saturdays instead and half the Bank Holiday Mondays.
I'm pretty sure DD enjoys her contact with her mother, but equally I wonder if her mother really wants to keep on having contact with her, in the sense that I know that if there wasn't a court order, then she'd like to come and go from DD's life at her own convenience. This would not be acceptable to me as it would be detrimental to DD.
I was sorely tempted to text back something along the lines of "that's the third time you've said that in as many months, so how about you fuck off and leave us alone forever?". I restrained myself to "Are you fucking serious? Bring her to [where I was] if you don't want to be her mother anymore." About half hour later I followed up with "You're not here, I'm going home. This is the third time in as many months you've said about not wanting contact with DD anymore.", and now that I've checked it turns out it's far less than three months.
I am pissed off for so many reasons, mainly on DD's behalf. It occurs to me that this could be her "sense of humour" or her baiting me (she has female NPD traits), and I realise that my next step is to ask the ex if she'd like / be better able to deal with less contact - perhaps every other weekend. But that doesn't really help lessen my worry with regard to how she parents DD or my annoyance with her attitude.
About half an hour ago I got "I'm at home with her, cooked food, and she's crying for no reason". I replied to suggest she try to see it from DD's pov for what may have upset her, or just give her some hugs and positive attention.
{rant over} Off to take my remaining anger and frustration out on the housework...
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WWYD? NRP Ex has texted about stopping contact 3 times since May (bit of a rant)
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PinkCarBlueCar · 19/06/2011 16:56
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