Dd's dad sees dd every five weeks. DD is 2, but only speaks a few words, and because of the long gaps between contact, I have not let her stay overnight yet.
However, I am keen to start working towards overnights, and have been encouraging him to put her to bed etc in my house when he visits.
He is now saying he doesn't want to 'rely on my generosity' alone and wants a formal contract, specifying contact from 9am Saturday til 5pm Sunday every five weeks, with a week at Xmas and two weeks in summer.
I don't have a problem with initiating overnights in the coming months, but feel a whole week without me and with a dad she has such limited contact with is unfair on a child so young. I'd happily work towards 3 nights overnight when she's 3 though.
Am I being unreasonable with this timeframe? I am very distressed about this 'written contract' request, as I have bent over backwards to be accommodating to him - have travelled 200 m to see his family, invited them all to her birthday party, including his new fiancee, whom I have also made a real effort with. Should i be reading something more sinister into this 'contract'?
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whole week without main carer - at what age is this appropriate?
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racetobed · 12/06/2011 19:45
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