Hello,
My dd is 3.5. Very switched on girl. Very advanced, very aware.
She has never asked why she has no dad, but other people often ask about her father, in her presence. I always freeze up and then give an answer that I regret later, as it always comes across as a closed topic by me, but that's just because i dread those questions as I'm so aware of dd and feel so sensitive on her behalf. I know soon she'll ask me herself. I just wonder how much of it is already turning in her mind. Should I just sit her down and talk about it?
I always thought i'd wait her for her to ask, but sometimes I wonder if she's ready, but feels she can't approach me about it.
Her dad and I never made a go of it, because he's alcoholic and wasn't able to be responsible, even occasionally, which I tried to invite when she was young, but he messed it up.
I have no bad feelings towards him. I made a choice to enter pregnancy alone without him and to embrace motherhood. So I have no need to express bad feeings about him to her. I hardly even ever think about him. Because it's just been her and I on this journey. Crazy really as he lives in the same small city.
Can anyone share experiences?
Better to wait for the question to come, or to open a discussion now?
Thanks!
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Absent father. Should I wait until DD asks, or sit her down and tell her?
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bellbottom · 24/05/2011 21:23
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