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Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 31)

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Hatesponge Sun 10-Apr-11 23:26:17

hurray grin

adamschic Sun 10-Apr-11 23:27:32

Yeah!

Hatesponge Sun 10-Apr-11 23:30:24

adams, re your DD I agree theres nothing wrong with letting her go on her own. I know my parents would have driven me (I was the little princess!) but I wouldn't for either of the DSs...even if I could drive!

and also agree, we are both definitely overdue some romance grin

Monty27 Sun 10-Apr-11 23:30:47

Sponge - grin grin

ASBM - you do love a wind-up little joke don't you lolol grin

You first, is all I can say.

Adamschic - if dd is going to Uni next year.... I don't need to say it do I.

Monty27 Sun 10-Apr-11 23:32:10

Sponge - yes that's lovely, but it when it falls to one parent to do everything our little Princesses need to do a wee bit for themselves grin

aseriouslyblondemoment Sun 10-Apr-11 23:34:05

grin for thread
sponge hope you're ok?
what's the prob with EV?
you sound bored to b ac!

Monty27 Sun 10-Apr-11 23:34:19

By the way everybody, I'm going to a funeral on Wednesday at which Al will be at I think.

But Celtic is coming to see me later on grin yayyyy!

Oh dear, that's seduction plan no 3. Right ladies, I want tips!!! grin

Oh, and NMN thanks for yrs on fb the other day.... worked grin

adamschic Sun 10-Apr-11 23:36:31

Thanks Sponge, she does need to become more independent, hopefully it will be OK and she will feel good about it when she has done it by herself iyswim. One of the reasons I have said no is because I hate driving in motorway and city traffic at rush hour. Bit of a phobia on my part rather than I cannot be bothered. blush

Yep, we both need to find someone this thread. grin

aseriouslyblondemoment Sun 10-Apr-11 23:36:40

tmi montshock

Flame Sun 10-Apr-11 23:38:31

Def needs to go on her own. My friends all run round after their kids so much, and I feel that doing it yourself is very very important for growing up.

Flame Sun 10-Apr-11 23:41:00

(I can obv say that as my eldest is 7 wink)

aseriouslyblondemoment Sun 10-Apr-11 23:41:49

how old is yours/your dc/s flame?

Flame Sun 10-Apr-11 23:44:05

18m, 5yr and 7 yr wink

Seriously though - I was getting a train every day to college from the age of 16, and I see mates dropping their 17/18yr olds off 5 mins up the road daily!! I used to get myself to different cities for concerts, I did one uni open day by myself. They were all v important experiences imo.

Hatesponge Mon 11-Apr-11 00:00:58

I think I was overly indulged tbh, which makes me much more determined that the DSs are able to do stuff on their own. For ex, I've allowed DS1 to go to local shopping centre (10 mins by bus) with his mates since age of 11.

Conversely I wasn't allowed to go anywhere - other than school - til I was 15/16 blush

aseriouslyblondemoment Mon 11-Apr-11 00:27:57

tbh i think it's down to where you live and your situ
i know where adams' lives so can appreciate her circs
i was fortunate enough to go out all day with my friends and return for dinner,my/our parents didn't worry,why should they?
i take this same view with mine, tho sadly they don't live in the same neighbourhood as i did at their ages and don't have kids their own age to play/hang out with

lou33 Mon 11-Apr-11 08:53:47

Hi

FairyLightsForever Mon 11-Apr-11 09:34:11

We were overprotected too, i've made a real effort not to do that with DS and he has more freedom than I did at his age. I don't have a car, so he has to be more independent.

I was a bit like you, hate, anywhere outside school that I wanted to go my parents took me and picked me up. I think it was so they could check up on me... it backfired though, I went off the rails as soon as I left home and never completely got back on them again!blush

adamschic Mon 11-Apr-11 12:39:20

She got off OK, I did get up to see her off. Tried to get back to sleep but have birds nesting outside my bedroom window. What a racket, so need a builder to come and stop them.

I don't mind driving her places if I can and she is getting used to buses and taxis. Even went to London with a mate her age at 15 but this was a daunting trip on her own onto the unknown.

Decided to fizzle it out with EV. He is very nice and I tried to change type but on reflection should stick to type or forget the whole of the male species until someone knocks on my door. Now whatever happened to the sexy salesman. wink

lou33 Mon 11-Apr-11 16:00:55

hi

dd1 is 19 today!

her father didnt even send a card, he called when i was out with ds2 having a wheelchair review, and said he would get her something when he has money hmm

ds2 is still waiting for the elusive birthday gift since feb, as his father keeps telling him he had to spend his money on other stuff

i have also asked him to remove himself from dd2's fb as she is uncomfortable with some of his updates (she asked me to broach the topic), as she doesnt want to see him talking about young girls with firm caramel skin

biscuit

anyway i made dd1 the biggest ever cake, if you are on my fb you can see it there

hope everyone is ok

adamschic Mon 11-Apr-11 16:53:23

Hi Lou, the cake looked lovely, making me feel hungry. Hope DD1 has a lovely birthday despite her dad.

FairyLightsForever Mon 11-Apr-11 17:02:12

The cake looks lovely lou, if ex won't remove DD2 she can remove or block him... he's an utter twat, why would he have her as a friend in the first place if he's not going to be child friendly- I don't have my DS on mine, because I don't want to have to edit what I say. Knobber.

Eve, I get where you're coming from, except I'm not sure what my type is anymore... man child, judging by the last couple of ex's and i don't want to date that type, hence me staying single!

lou33 Mon 11-Apr-11 17:09:34

flf that is why i dont have my kids on mine either.

she did remove him the first time, but he got a bit humpy about it and she felt obliged to readd him

he is a prize cock

he has made countless excuses to not get anything for ds2 yet, and he didnt even fork out for a bloody card for dd1

anyway from me she got a pair of leggings and two tops, and her main thing was an envelope which had the form to apply for her provisional driving licence

i have promised to pay for that and a few lessons to see if she likes it, then somehow i will have to find the cash to make it happen

funny how i am also struggling with money but i am able to budget for things like their birthdays, it isnt like he didnt know it was coming ffs

he has half heartedly asked for them on the royal wedding day, as there is some fete in his village.

actually he only asked if dd2 wanted to go with him, and only invited the others when i questioned why he didnt want to have them all

dd1 is not going tho, she is not interested, and when i told him this he sighed and said he needed her help if he was having all 3 of them

omg he is such a fucking tosser

ninah Mon 11-Apr-11 19:12:04

firm caramel skin bleurgh
not to mention no bday present
he makes my ex look like Gandhi or Jesus

FairyLightsForever Mon 11-Apr-11 19:14:52

He's the sort of bloke that deserves sterilisation with a couple of house bricks and no anasthetic... not that that helps your kids sadangry for your DCs and for you.

lou33 Mon 11-Apr-11 19:49:55

i know

he just emailed me to say he has removed her from his fb and he denied saying that, but i know he did as she showed me his page so i saw it myself

i am taking the route of telling him he can say what he likes if the kids cant see it, as it isnt my business, and it is a good example of why you shouldnt have your kids on fb

dd1 has just gone out to celebrate her birthday and she looked lovelygrin

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