Online dating .... advice please! :)

[ginnycrls]

Have had a bit of a confidence boost due to someone's recommendation on here for trying out GU soulmates. Anyway, after a few weeks of some slightly pleasant banter, a couple of weeks ago comes along a really really lovely guy and all of a sudden I am fifteen again and and waiting eagerly for replies! Anyway, we have been chatting quite a bit and he seems to really like my, um, profile ;) ha ha and was just wondering how to keep someone interested. He lives in London BTW so no chance of meeting up any time soon but am quite happy to just continue chatting for now. Anyone had any experience with online dating or successful stories from GU???

Thanks all!

BTW - not been thinking about the soon to b xh at all!! It's a welcome distraction. Yay!

[Niceguy2]

Well the idea of online dating is to meet someone who you then meet up with

First thing I'd do is if you are still swapping messages via the site, to move it away. Create a hotmail account or something if you are not ready for full e-mail/name thing yet. This shows you are interested without giving anything away.

Next, you may want to broach the distance subject with him soon and explain that you do want to meet him but logistics are an issue.

Otherwise what may happen is the guy may misinterpret your continued exchange of messages as just another timewaster. Trust me, there are plenty of women out there who simply just want to chat & chat and never want to meet. What's the point then?

[MakeYerOwnDamnDinner]

I'm on Guardian Soulmates. I've met up with a few people. Haven't met anyone I've been really attracted to yet but I've met some nice blokes, been on some fun dates, and all in all I think it's a good way to meet new people.

There's always some inevitable disappointment too - people you think you might really like that suddenly disappear into thin air, others that turn out to be nothing like you imagined, but as long as you remember not to take these things too seriously, it's all good clean fun I reckon.

And of course you never know.....

[ginnycrls]

Thanks guys... yes, I would like to meet him at some point! I'll definitely put that across. He seems keen too.

I'm definitely not taking too seriously ....haven't been out with anyone since separating from soon to be xh in March but quite excited about the possibility of seeing someone in the not too distant future!

[Milytoe]

Ginny, I met DP on GSM - he was my 2nd date, I was the only person he contacted

bottoms firmly glued to the couples' sofa after the best Christmas I have ever had.

His DD and my DDs get on like a house on fire and we are planning our future together

[elastaelf]

Hi MILY, So pleased to see TLM is now DP!!

Your story gives hope to us all

[ginnycrls]

At that's brilliant Milly! :)

[frozenfestiveflo]

what's GU please

or any other reputable sites anyone might recommend

[ginnycrls]

Guardian Soulmates - the Guardian Newspaper runs it. I think it's one of the best ones. ;)

[chubbasmum]

happy for you Ginny and Milytoe something definately in the air i too have met my boyfriend online we did the meal thing 2wks after chatting we hit it off instantly i feel like a teenager again its been a month early days but it feels right ,so i say to you girls if he makes you feel like a million dollars or maybe pounds why not enjoy the moment go with the flow.

[googoomama]

Sory to put a downer on things but had two relationships from GSM and both turned out to be real heartbreakers. I know that this doesn't mean they all are but put it this way: my ex finished things at the end of November, after declaring his undying love for me on our anniversay in October and he was back on the site within 4 days, saying that he was "doing ok now" but hadn't "had a companion for 5 years now". I would now be very wary of dating sites, as I think a lot of men especially go on there for an endless supply of quite long term relationships and also you just don't know whether their profiles are true or not... I think that lots of commitment phobes use internet dating and there is always the temptation to just have another look, even if you are in a good relationship with someone you met on there... :(