ok so Exp is home on leave, we have no arranged contact, i have told him he can have the dcs anytime aslong as he prearranges it and doesn't just turn up at the house.
he had them today, brought them back at 6pm (agreed time) and sat down on the sofa watching tv. I was just sitting down to my dinner (he had given them dinner at his mums) and when i finished i went back to my ironing. as it approached half 6 i asked ds1 if he wanted a bath, he said yes so i asked EXp if he would like to do it as he was here. so he bathed the dcs and put them to bed and then came back down and sat down on the sofa. i was using the computer so it wasn't like he was even sitting down with me. I feel really awkward when people are in my house, as though i have to entertain them, well it's rude not to speak to someone who visits but as he wasn't really invited to stay it felt weird, i tried to make conversation but he was giving brief answers and carried on watching tv, and then i asked him something about his car (stupid racer boy car that he is trying to sell) and he got annoyed and said " just stop talking to me" quite sharply and i said "hang on, you're in my house, you don't tell me to stop talking to someone who is sitting in my house" so he said "right I'm going" and went off in a bit of a huff.
the thing is this isn't a one off. when he came to collect the dcs earlier (agreed time was 2pm) he arrived 15 minutes early, infact he was behind me for the last few miles of my journey from my mum's and he came into the house and while i was setting teh fire he switched teh computer on and said "I'm using yoru computer" he stayed til afetr 3pm. teh whole time teh dcs had their coats on because i presumed he would be taking them soon but i didn't want to take them off them incase he would take it as invitation to stay longer.
so basically he is taking liberties and i feel he is doing it intentionally to get me to get me to snap and tell him to stop hanging around so that i am the one being unreasonable.
how do i make it clear to him that he isn't invited to lounge about my house but without me being made out to be a cow. which i knwo he will do. FWIW i always have teh dcs ready to go, coats on at agreed pick up time but he usually ahs a reason that he needs to come into the house, like using teh computer or something.
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ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 28/12/2010 00:14
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