i think you have to instil in your dcs the idea that when you are firm, you mean it. be very consistent. so when you give a consequence for something, you follow through. you don't have to be mean to be a good disciplinarian. my mum's motto, is firm but fair, and she always was. we always knew she was being firm for our own good.
4 boys under 8 who are all really active and noisy....... which is why i resort to shouting just to make myself heard but i totally hate shouting and nit picking and want to find a better way of parenting them....thanks for all the advice