I have already posted this in Chat but was advised to repost it here. Sorry it's a bit long!
Some background;
I split from my DCs dad at the beginning of summer after quite a while of things not being right between us. As I was living far from home with n family support and very few friends (most had moved away) I decided to return to my hometown with the DC. Ex agreed with this and assisted a little with the move etc. Once we were there, he started begging for another chance, and I STUPIDLY agreed to this.
He moved in at beginning of September and it's been hell on earth, within 2 weeks he managed to alienate all my family and friends and whilst they were all still there to help and support me and the DCs no-one would come to the house etc and I felt almost as isolated as I had before I moved!
Incident upon incident on top of that led me to tell Ex that it wasn't working and I asked im to leave. The house is solely in my name. Over the past few weeks he has flitted between saying he is going, he's not going, he is going (and so on) citing various reasons such as he paid for the 6 months rent paid upfront (he did not), he had nowhere else to go (not entirely true he has his mum), and that if he moved back he would hardly see the DCs (he never does anything with them or interacts with them anyway). He is a total cocklodger (but no sex involved) and I just wanted him out asap but was unwilling to actually see him on the street.
Anyway for about the last week he has sat 24/7 on the internet using adult dating sites, then out the blue said on Weds that he would be leaving on Friday (today) so I presume he managed to get someone to agree to meet him
So today I phoned JSA to enquire about payments that haven't been made for the last 6 weeks and was told a giro was sent to Ex at the weekend. So he got the giro, cashed it and kept all the money. It was a joint claim with him as lead claimant. I text him about it as he was on his way back to his mums and since then I've had numerous abusive texts and phone calls threatening to come straight back and take my DCs away etc.
I will be arranging to see a solicitor on Monday and also contacting police to report the threats but I'm still really worried and actually quite scared.
Does anybody know if he can do this? As he does have PR and there is no court order in place, can he just turn up and take my DCs? Even if this is done by force? I wouldn't put it past him to do that. He wouldn't care about upsetting them either. And I KNOW he doesn't want custody of the DCs he is purely doing and saying these things to get to me and to scare me.
Any replies/advice/help/support most appreciated. Thank you x
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