I have a new partner who I have been with for a few months.
We have been spending one or two days a week together and its very intense and a wonderful relationship which is mostly making me very happy.
In order for me to see my partner I usually get a babysitter so we can go out for the evening and then he stays over at mine.
The issue is, that I feel that I have pushed him into a situation where he is both dating me and co-parenting. When he wants to push the pushchair or put DS on his shoulders it makes me stressed. If they playfight, or if he helps feed DS's dinner I feel pushed out and alarmed.
For the most part, I have been extremely grateful as my DS can seem to be out of control and wild and my new partner seems to be fantastic with children, able to use just the right balance of bribery and firm talking to get good behaviour.
Is it unusual to feel this way? I know that DS has a Dad and so feel uncomfortable that DS now has a really good, strong role model around.
I feel terrified thinking of Baby P and other cases that those mum's trusted their partners who ended up abusing their child.
I'm maybe not ready to accept this change, although I feel DS and my partner are starting to develop a bond and I do love my partner.
What should I do? And how can I tell him, that although he is doing everything right, and giving DS exactly what he needs, I don't like it!
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HystericalMe · 10/11/2010 00:25
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