IVF hardships

[natashawilliams55]

Hi all, I have been married for 3 years, together for 8, all that time we never wanted kids. I was an athlete, running 10 km a day, boxing etc and eating low fat diet, so body fat % is very low. Everyone told me to slow down but we didn’t wanted kids so was not a problem, but we do want now. We are now on 3rd IVF cycle and not responding as I should. I have put on weight and now in a healthy weight range and still nothing. We start our next cycle in few weeks and on 450 FSH. I have also spend thousands at naturpath with all types of herbs whcih has caused many fights, but I am willing to try anything. And then I found out that my sister who does not want kids is pregnant and I am struggling to keep it together. I am not able to get over it, she is pregnant without trying and I am here at acupuncturist with needles in my body

[natashawilliams55]

Hi, thanks for your kind words, it certainly helps. What is DHEA, I haven’t heard of it. The worst thing I feel is the guilt. I feel I am depriving my husband of what he deserves because I chose to run. He is very supportive and has never blamed me, but I can’t help wondering if we end up with no kids. He use to tell me to take rest days and eat fatty foods, but I didn’t and as a result we have to do IVF. The guilt kills me

[bettygary]

Hi there, guilt..I know all about that, but really what does it help? There is nothing you can do to change the past. It sound you have a very supportive DH. Embrace him, your love and connection are really important in this phase. IVF can take a lot out of relationships. Since I had a horrible reaction to first IVF and ended up in hospital, my family doesn’t understand why we’d try it again. So I stopped talking to them about it, but this leaves you isolated. There are many success stories and many women who stayed strong through IVF. This forum is my way of expression and helped me cope up. The women here are my support system. My suggestions to you, get support from people around who understand you, take good care of yourself, do things that make you happy and understand your treatments and options.
Regarding DHEA, it is a natural supplement that decreases with age in your body. If taken 75 mg daily 7 weeks prior to a cycle, it can increase your follicle number, but before you take it consult your RE as some women have reported some side effects. All the very best to you

[natashawilliams55]

Thank you so much for the post, I feel so better reading it. I am going into the cycle feeling positive and have done everything asked from me this time, I have put on weight, stopped the excessive exercise, eaten fats, followed low carb diet and relaxed. It just has to work this time. This place helps a lot, so will continue to write my feelings when I can. Thank you all.