Hi all
I need honest opinions please. We have thought about moving to the IoW for years. But for a number of reasons never have. We have friends who live on the Island so have spent a good amount of time there.
In Sept my youngest son will be going into year 7. My older son into year 9. They are both currently at a private school in York and the older of the two is about to move from the middle school to the upper school - which is why now is a good time to move and it's likely the last chance we'd have to move before they leave school.
We like their current school - excellent sports and academics - but it's slightly too focused on pressurised exam results, rather than inspiring a love of learning. It is also getting increasingly expensive - not just the fees but the extra curricular trips that there is pressure to send them on. There's also a bit of trying to keep up with the Joneses that I don't like. But it is a really good school.
We love living in York - its beautiful and has loads of restaurants, shops and entertainment that we can access by walking out our front door. We also have lots of friends here - both us and our kids. We've been here 5 years and have built up a great network. A big circle rather than a best friend for any of us.
But I have always wanted to live by the sea (I grew up at the seaside in a different country). Both my husband and I enjoy sailing, as does our youngest son. I also love the outdoors and in my head, I imagine my boys having a far more outdoor lifestyle than they do in the centre of York, where they mainly play school sports or hang out around the shops or stare at an xbox.
If we moved, we'd move to Ryde so that my husband could commute. He works in Reading and abroad - we have a flat in Reading so he wouldn't be commuting daily but he doesn't want to add an extra drive to a ferry crossing and drive on the other side. Even so, his commute from Ryde to Reading is significantly shorter than the 3.5 - 4 hour drive from York! The boys would go to Ryde school and we'd probably join Seaview sailing club. We'd have a bigger house with a garden and access to the beach on a regular basis - unlike our small townhouse with no garden that we currently have.
My youngest son is very keen on the move and I can imagine would fully embrace the lifestyle. My eldest is very sensitive and hates change. REALLY HATES IT. He didn't want to move to York - but has since settled in really well (despite social peer pressure to have the latest greatest things). He is adamant he doesn't want to move. He says he hates sailing (he's done it and I don't think he hates it - he's not as keen as his brother though). He does enjoy skim boarding and has tried surfing and seemed to enjoy it. He worries that the sport at Ryde won't be competitive enough (and it won't be in contrast to where they currently are) and that he will have no friends and that the whole place is a dump and he doesn't want to go.
I think he could get to IoW, make friends and transform from the townie he is into something far more dynamic and well rounded. But he could equally go the other way and just hate us and spend even more time on the xbox as there is less in 'town' to do.
I am worried about making friends - how easy is it on the island? I also run my own business and wonder if there is much by way of business networking. Does the lack of buzz/restaurants/shops that you get in bigger places irritate/depress you or do you genuinely just embrace the quirky local shops and restaurants? Do teens get outdoors more or are they like teens everywhere else who just want to stare at screens? Will they be bored stiff? How often do people just pop over to Portsmouth or does that stretch of water really become a barrier?
In short - if you've moved there, would you recommend it? Or not?
Really open to hearing all points of view. I need to make a decision fast!
Thanks for any help or advice you can share
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To move or not to move? I really opinions from people who've moved to IoW please
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citycentredweller · 20/04/2017 17:33
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