The contrast between these two posts from 'Living the dream' sums up our dilemma over whether to go overseas again or not:
''you wont damage your child, you'll give them an amazing childhood and probably give them greater understanding of the world than growing up in an English village.''
''Nowhere is home in an emotional sense for me.''
I just don't know which is best for her. She's a shy child who doesn't make new friends easily and is quite emotionally vulnerable. OTOH, she is a good traveller and likes to see new things and stay in new places. She is 5 this summer and in reception.
Although I am only first generation Enlish myself, I have a strong attachment to my home town which I usually visit once a year. Dh moved many times in the US, and didn't like having to start new schools.
But while I was actually growing up I thought where we lived was fantastically dull and suburban and never saw myself living in that kind of place. And I didn't - until now. We live in a village. I don't completely hate it - it just feels wrong, flat, dull and as though the world has become very, very small.
Europe or USA wouldn't do it for me - it's the radically different culture, colour, sunlight - the openess of possibilities that you have when you are reasonably well-off in countries with fewer boundaries and restrictions (this doesn't really apply if you are too poor). We have lived in Africa and ME - and would like to go to Asia. Singapore, perhaps, as a compromise solution - or somewhere Dehli if we are not compromising. Dh feels the same - but he travels a lot for work so he is not as trapped as I am.
So my main concerns are - settling into new schools, and not having an emotional home to return to. I wish I had a crystal ball to tell me which path would suit dd best. Her emotional stability and security is my highest priority - this is why I have put stability above everything else. I just don't know if we really need to do that or not. If we had other children (we can't) I think we would feel differently as then she would have a sibling always moving with her, to anchor her to her past when we are gone (we are older parents - late 40s).
How have you felt about growing up overseas? Did you move around a lot or was it mainly one other country? Does that make a difference? What about bringing up dc overseas - how is working for you?
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Acinonyx · 18/03/2010 10:03
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